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Coping With Annoying Colleagues

2008/12/16 16:02:00 41880

As the saying goes, rice is like a hundred people.

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On the one hand, we inevitably encounter uneasy colleagues. Some people like to complain constantly. Some people will lose their temper.

Their behavior not only destroys their mood and state of work, but may even affect the physical and mental health of others and personal life.

No wonder Sutton, a professor of management at Stanford University, treats these nuisance in the book "the rules of asshole".

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Behavior is called "asshole behavior".

Sutton also pointed out that in the face of these difficult colleagues, the key is to keep calm. As long as we learn to change our behavior appropriately, we can get rid of their influence and improve their quality of life.

遇到情商差的人，要冷静

Ms. Wang's neighbour colleagues are bad tempered and emotionally controlled. They often get angry because of a little trifle and shout at others, ignoring the feelings of others.

Whenever the colleague lost his temper, Mrs. Wang would feel depressed and feel hurt. He thought he was rushing to himself.

其实，面对这种情商差的“火药桶”，最好的处理方式就是冷静、冷静、再冷静，因为对方若能处理好自己的情绪，也不会丟出赤裸裸的愤怒和怨气。此时，我们不妨学学西方人，运用“暂时离开”的哲学，礼貌地说一句：“对不起，我想去趟洗手间，等一下我们再谈。”也可以说：“对不起，我现在跟人有约，可否待会再谈？”总之，及时离开现场，可以让你远离风暴、平复心情。

Although some colleagues are not as horrible as a gunpowder bucket, if you have a colleague who chatter all day in your ear and complain incessantly, your mood will not go anywhere.

Some people call such a colleague "bitter cauliflower".

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The Wall Street Journal reported that those who complain often make colleagues unable to work well.

If you meet those "bitter vegetables" who like to complain or have negative thoughts, you can take a few minutes to listen to their complaints, genuinely sympathize with their situation, then guide them to pay attention to some positive things, or focus on the work: "some things are unreasonable, but what should we do now?"

How can you do it? "

Lead him to think about solutions.

If he continues to complain, he might as well adopt a strategy of "stay at arm's length", and do not respond to their complaints through their seats. As time passes, they will not bother you again if they do not resonate.

遇到兴风作浪的人，当面质问

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The guys who like to talk about gossip and gossip are often hard to guard against.

Although gossip and gossip reflect human nature, they can satisfy the desire to spy on others' privacy and comment on others' short and short desires. But gossip has long been easy to get into a wrong place.

Therefore, it is best to chat with and exchange information with colleagues who love gossip.

First, do not let yourself become a gossip pfer station.

If there are colleagues who distribute your right and wrong, it is best to ask the speaker in person, which can effectively extinguish rumors and slander: "I heard, what do you say I am..."

I wonder if it's a misunderstanding? "

On the one hand, the opportunity to explain to the other side, on the other hand, for their own clarification of the facts.

Sometimes we encounter harsh colleagues or

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At this time, we might as well take a look at it first. What is the motive behind it?

Is he very demanding of himself and his work, or is he trying to suppress others?

遇到要求高的领导，不妨欣然接受对方的批评和建议，视他为鞭策自己成长和进步的“贵人”。如果实在被对方逼得喘不过气来，也不妨适度表达一下自己的感受，例如：“你的标准真高，我们都达不到。”意思是提醒对方，别总是追求完美。但如果批评者“暗藏杀机”，也别被他打倒了。

Dale Carnegie, a famous psychologist, said: "criticism is often a disguised compliment."

Because you have aroused jealousy and jealousy from others, it is inevitable that this will happen.

However, try not to regard colleagues as competitors or enemies. You know that those who do not have a win-win concept in their brain and want to control everything themselves are unable to survive in the workplace for a long time.

最后，要多增强自己的调适能力和工作上的自信心，在工作之外找到其他平衡的窗口宣泄情绪，例如选择固定的健身项目，培养自己的兴趣。此外，也可以积极建立工作上的支持系统，找积极乐观的同事为你打气。同时，还要注意加强自己的信念，培养对事对人的观察能力，养成不畏逆境的心态。

Editor: vivi