Chinese Women Need Spiritual Independence More Than Economic Independence.

How old are women?

This is a girl asked me a few days ago.

I asked, "how old are you then?" she said, "I worried for 89 years."

I can't get married.

I wanted to tell jokes. That's where I went. You are very young.

Think about it, not quite right.

I only compare my age, and I feel subconsciously that I am still young, younger than myself, and I do not know that after 90, they have already passed the age of "late marriage".

According to the common sense, the girl born in 89 is 27 this year.

27, 8 is the most sensitive and sensitive period of women's life. Because of their failure in career, the family is not standing, the pressure from family and society reaches its peak.

"Hat", even to go home for a year to be cautious.

G, a 28 year old girl, is in deep distress.

She is one of my consultants, Wen Wen still has a little timid, typical girl.

G came from a small southern town and was alone.

Hard work is still successful. Because of being single, parents are said to be unable to lift their heads in front of their relatives.

The girl herself was in a hurry. In the 15 years, two men were married.

One is not active to her, the other is not.

I haven't seen any of them yet.

The conversation was not very speculative, but could not bear the urge of both families, so he bought the ticket and planned to see him again during the Spring Festival. He planned to get married first if he wanted to, and she resigned to fight in Shenzhen.

G kept emphasizing his age. He said, "I am 28 this year". It is like describing a Chinese cabbage ready to cry for sale. As long as someone buys it, no matter 37 or twenty-one, it will jump to the basket.

I listened.

I said girls don't talk about you 28, or 82.

Online shopping is still more than the price, so you plan to spend a lifetime with a man who buys online? You can't even define his sexual orientation.

I have criticized some women who choose partners like "Zheng Ren bu le". They list the long list of conditions in the name of not going to the right place.

But now, I am more worried about those girls who are anxious to marry themselves.

Being single is not at all fatal.

For example, the recent buoy of No.3 Hospital of Beijing University maternity incident, whether the family members of the patients have made any trouble in hospitals or illegal money, but there are several things that Yang Bing wrote by his husband: his wife had a history of many abortions, aged and high-risk women, and he had to cook breakfast for him. He had no one to accompany him before surgery, and he couldn't hear 11 phone calls.

It is said that women did not do anything else in the past five years, and they gave birth to children. Finally, they put their lives on the 4 words of "passing the family."

I have to say that some deep-rooted traditional ideas do not change because of how many degrees you have read.

In the past, I always felt that women's economic independence is the most important. When you can't even eat your meals, don't expect love to help you in the snow.

But over the years, I have come across many women who have good income, or live in fear of older women, or they are struggling to retain a man who has never belonged to him or firmly believe that family succession is the inevitable mission of a woman.

When G girl talked to me, she said the most "my parents say..."

"His parents said..."

"He thinks..."

From beginning to end, I didn't hear a word "myself".

For Chinese women, spiritual independence is more important than economic independence.

A spirit independent woman, first of all, loves herself. This kind of love does not depend on anyone.

They do not care whether they are early or late, or even get married. They will not take children as their mission in life.

Don't talk about sacrifice at all times, talk about dedication. A woman who lives for her parents, for her lover and even for her children is destined to be a tragedy.

I never preach single, love, friendship can not replace love, and a lover and a sympathetic lover to hand over this life, is the best thing in this life, meet the right person, marry early.

Because of this, do not casually marry someone, and do not detain a hopeless marriage.

When someone is in love, he talks about a vigorous love affair. When you are not in love, please live your life well.

I marry you not because I am old, but because I love you.

But in China, it is still a difficult and long-term road for women to truly achieve spiritual independence.

Often a single girl tells me that when you get married early, you can't understand the pressure of forced marriage.

I was also trying to persuade a female reader to end her marriage and hear her sigh again and again. Even though her husband had been living with her lover openly, she still chose to endure. She kept saying, "I am 35 years old and divorced. Who else will love me?"

When a woman speaks this sentence, don't say that no one will love her. She has already given up her right to love herself.

I would like to tell some women that if you are good enough, the age of marriage is not a problem.

"Peacock Flying Southeast" is a sad love story, but it can make people smell a touch of encouragement.

Liu Lanzhi, who had been taken home by his front foot, had broken his door after his parents moved back.

Good girls never worry about marrying, so is feudal society, let alone modern society.

I know a girl who is a goddess, married at an early age, and a man standing around, stamping his feet and sighing.

In the past two years, the news of divorce broke out. Goddess is still the goddess. The pursuers are increasing. Later, they marry a reliable young man.

If she becomes a complaining and complaining woman after her divorce, her body will grow fat and her face will never return. Whenever people are like Xiang Linsao, they will not be able to get married. They will all run away overnight.

What really degenerates a woman is not age nor marriage history, but a serious lack of confidence.

A woman who is independent of spirit will never be frightened by the passing of her age, nor will she prove her value by PS photos of eighteen Po skins.

Brigitte Lin, twenty, has a vibrant beauty. Fifty year old Brigitte Lin has the beauty of intellectual elegance. Sixty year old Jerry Holzer can marry Murdoch in the wind.

How old are you?